cropland handkerchief: About to text my EX after 10months apart... - Sexuality and

Anonymous #1

This could be a huge mistake. Maybe not.? She is usually back in town for thanksgiving/x-mas. Thought I would see what she was up too.

...this wont blow up in my face at all. Hopefully she is open minded to grabbing a coffee.? Think its been long enough to rekindle some sort of relationship out of this?

Anonymous #2

DON'T DO IT!!!!! Trust me

Anonymous #1

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DON'T DO IT!!!!! Trust me

Justification?? one of us has to have the balls to text first because we never really ended our relationship on bad terms (distance).? I wont get closure from our relationship until it happens.

wish i wasn't in this situation.

Murzelpfrumpft
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I think no one here can judge whether you should do this or not.

Depends on why and how you two broke up.

Don't seem pathetic or needy to her, you might regret this.

Even if you do and maybe get to fuck her again, don't tend to think it's all good again. Sex can make you temporary blind for the problems between yourself and your partner.

Just make up your mind.

And one wise advice: Masturbate before finally deciding what to do.
This will help a lot to get to know your real interests.

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I think no one here can judge whether you should do this or not.
Depends on why and how you two broke up.
Don't seem pathetic or needy to her, you might regret this.
Even if you do and maybe get to fuck her again, don't tend to think it's all good again. Sex can make you temporary blind for the problems between yourself and your partner.
Just make up your mind.
And one wise advice: Masturbate before finally deciding what to do.
This will help a lot to get to know your real interests.

I'm not going into this with the intention to fuck her again.? Our relationship would never work unless we both lived in the same city again.? She still means something to me though so I want to see how she has been.

Murzelpfrumpft
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You need to decide if this is useful.

I wouldn't do it just to feed my curiosity, because this might cause emotional suffering.

I'd only do that if it's likely that this relationship has a future in some way.
So, if it's realistic that the two of you will start seeing each other again on a regular basis somewhen in future, it might be useful to check out how she does and how she feels about you.

Just don't torture yourself, if there is no use in it.

Anonymous #1

text sent...now the long wait for a reply...

If she says nothing back then I guess I get my closure...

Murzelpfrumpft
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I'd like to hear how it went, afterwards.

What did you write her?

Anonymous #1

just asked if she was going to be out here for thanksgiving. Told her I hope she was doing well. nothing crazy.

Anonymous #3

She's fucking somebody else, bro.

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This could be a huge mistake. Maybe not.? She is usually back in town for thanksgiving/x-mas. Thought I would see what she was up too.
...this wont blow up in my face at all. Hopefully she is open minded to grabbing a coffee.? Think its been long enough to rekindle some sort of relationship out of this?

Dude always wait for the call

10 months or 10 years wait for her to call or just wait to see her around. Normally easy enough at this time of year

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She's fucking somebody else, bro.

so am i

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This could be a huge mistake. Maybe not.? She is usually back in town for thanksgiving/x-mas. Thought I would see what she was up too.
...this wont blow up in my face at all. Hopefully she is open minded to grabbing a coffee.? Think its been long enough to rekindle some sort of relationship out of this?
Dude always wait for the call
10 months or 10 years wait for her to call or just wait to see her around. Normally easy enough at this time of year

its not exactly that easy with her.

OGTubs
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Then go find her, you know where she will be

Do it

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She's fucking somebody else, bro.
so am i

This makes it sound like a bad idea. Anonymous #1

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Then go find her, you know where she will be
Do it

Something about just showing up at her place sure sounds like it would give off some creepy stalker vibes...

...maybe not

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She's fucking somebody else, bro.
so am i

This makes it sound like a bad idea.

Its very casual...

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Then go find her, you know where she will be
Do it
Something about just showing up at her place sure sounds like it would give off some creepy stalker vibes...
...maybe not

Bars, coffee, gym, friends etc so many places

Just think if you wanted to avoid her, then do the opposite, you will see her

Anonymous #1